All of the women I met in a bar had basically been screwed by a former boyfriend or husband. Some had a kid or two, while the others did not, but still had responsibilities to their siblings, and parents/grandparents. None had more than one year of higher education. I see having a good time at a bar, meeting fun people, and later paying a bar fine a non-issue. How many times have we met a girl in our own country at a bar, paid for her drinks all night, and then maybe a meal before taking her back to the pad for some naughty fun? What is the difference?

Now, on the flip side of the coin, I have met some so called “good girls” who were so full of crap that it would make you vomit. Some of these girls are the true gold-diggers of the world. I am talking about absolutely no personality what-so-ever. Then also, I have met some sweet “good girls” as well, ones that I would have considered possibly marrying had that been what I was ready for at the time.

Yes, the PI has a whole host of problems, problems that I seriously have no glue how they will fix them. But, its their countrymem who will have to do it. I travel to the PI to enjoy a nice vacation with no intentions of trying to solve any of their problems. And by the way, I assure you there are far more prostitutes in American than there are in the PI, if you do not think so then you, my friend, are deillusional.

Corruption has been so far enbeded in the PI’s daily routine that its led me to truely believe that it will only get worst. Again, no foreigner has ever or will ever be able to stop it. Why?? Simple, because you are a foreigner, as such, there is no place for your solutions there. Filipinos have a completely different mind-set than Westerners, nearly every decision they make is based solely on family needs. It is inconceivable for them to worry about prostitution or corruption when it is all they have seen since birth. Poverty, and ways to survive is the cornerstone of their morning and nightly thoughts.

Most of us as first time visitors, glue ourselves to the seeder sides of the PI, I mean, afterall it is what we hear most about from people who have gone there before us. However, a great few have stated that one will get tired of that side and start to visit other islands, which is exactly what I experienced. It is only then that you really start to get an idea of what a beautiful country is. Yes, poverty is still stirring you in the face, and thats when you start to feel as if there must be something you can do to help, well, my friend, there is not! Sure we hand out pesos, sometimes too much, too many times but the realization is that it does not and will not ever make a real difference.

And lastly, but most importantly, People are free to marry whoever the heck they want! No one has a right to tell anyone otherwise. If a man feels a desire to marry an uneducated girl or dirt poor girl or bar girl, then I say “go for it” If one decides not to, I say “up to you” Because really, I could give a sh!t less who someone else decides to share their life with, however long or short. But any SOB who abuses a child in my presents or I find out about it later will wish he was never born.

So these are your criteria for marriage between Filipina and a Western man? Then why don’t we just call it a Job requirement instead of marriage between two people. Uneducated woman, a bar girl, daughter from a broken family, farmer or poor female in our country has the ability to fall in love as well. Even the ex-convict has a heart too.

It’s like saying that Venus Raj is not qualified of her crown as Bb Pilipinas Universe just because she is an illigetimate child and a farmer’s daughter!

I am glad you are not holding any powerful position in our country, or else discrimination is in action. I’m sure you mean well by putting this blog but truth is no one from us would control any marriages from shattering if that is meant to happen to couple. Besides it’s their personal problem to work on with and not a thesis or case that needs to scrutinize by us. I am in a very debating mood when I read things like this

*** A university degree
*** A steady and regular job that pays well. (No bargirl or prostitution background.)
*** A work ethic
*** Parents who are in a stable marriage.
*** No criminal background
*** Morality, dignity, and self-respect.
*** Money in the bank
*** A proven track record that she can indeed save money and support her family.

Oh… so YOU should be able to set the criteria to determine worthy marriages? How arrogant… I believe Hitler had similar ideas.

Your first letter had some good points, you should have left it at that. This second tirade is self-righteous, outrageous and totally ridiculous. Who do you think you are? What research have you done (other than observe lewd acts in the bars of Angeles City)?

You are certainly no expert on Philippine affairs, sir. Just because you yourself have “rented” a Filipina or two in your time does make you an authority. If you have witnessed first-hand many marriages that fell apart, did you also ask yourself about the character of the MAN involved? Perhaps the likes of you and your ilk are to more than partially to blame.

I’m astounded. I cant believe your proposition. Its an insult to Pinay and us westerners who love them.

Bill Davis
(Happily married for 28 years… to a “dirt-poor” uneducated Filipina who has been my best friend and companion, mother of our two wonderful successful children, and an independent thinker with her own career in America.)