Comments on: The Guilt Ridden Filipina Woman http://filipinaimages.com/the-guilt-ridden-filipina-woman/ Reshaping The Filipina Image Online Sat, 21 Aug 2010 07:36:54 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: bisayanqueen http://filipinaimages.com/the-guilt-ridden-filipina-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-3276 bisayanqueen Thu, 10 Jun 2010 03:08:48 +0000 http://filipinaimages.com/the-guilt-ridden-filipina-woman/#comment-3276 Albert... No. No one is bound to do anything. It's just that Filipinos who came from destitute background, and that's including me, have been heavily brainwashed about taking care of parents and siblings who are still struggling. And, they certainly expect it. Of course the decision is always up to me whether I am going to act on it or not. You quoted: "I must give because the money I’ve earned is a blessing” rule?… why is it called a blessing when in fact you have to work to earn every penny? I would say the people who receive the money from the hard working person, are the one’s getting the “blessings”… I'm thinking this is your interpretation of this blog. You are right... the people who receive money from the person who worked very hard for it, are the ones getting the blessing... Thanks for your comment. Tess Harris aka bisayanqueen http://bisayanqueen.wordpress.com/ .-= bisayanqueen´s last blog ..<a href="http://bisayanqueen.wordpress.com/2010/06/05/the-road-to-healing-is-uncovering-the-scars-from-years-past-2/" rel="nofollow">The Road to Healing is Uncovering the Scars from Years Past…</a> =-. Albert…

No. No one is bound to do anything.

It’s just that Filipinos who came from destitute background, and that’s including me, have been heavily brainwashed about taking care of parents and siblings who are still struggling.
And, they certainly expect it.
Of course the decision is always up to me whether I am going to act on it or not.

You quoted:

“I must give because the money I’ve earned is a blessing” rule?… why is it called a blessing when in fact you have to work to earn every penny? I would say the people who receive the money from the hard working person, are the one’s getting the “blessings”…

I’m thinking this is your interpretation of this blog.

You are right…

the people who receive money from the person who worked very hard for it, are the ones getting the blessing…

Thanks for your comment.

Tess Harris
aka bisayanqueen
http://bisayanqueen.wordpress.com/
bisayanqueen´s last blog ..The Road to Healing is Uncovering the Scars from Years Past… My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: bisayanqueen http://filipinaimages.com/the-guilt-ridden-filipina-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-3275 bisayanqueen Thu, 10 Jun 2010 03:07:34 +0000 http://filipinaimages.com/the-guilt-ridden-filipina-woman/#comment-3275 Albert... No. No one is bound to do anything. It's just that Filipinos who came from destitute background, and that's including me, have been heavily brainwashed about taking care of parents and siblings who are still struggling. And, they certainly expect it. Of course the decision is always up to me whether I am going to act on it or not. Ever since this post, I have reorganized my priorities... :-) You quoted: "I must give because the money I’ve earned is a blessing” rule?… why is it called a blessing when in fact you have to work to earn every penny? I would say the people who receive the money from the hard working person, are the one’s getting the “blessings”… I'm thinking this is your interpretation of this blog. You are right... the people who receive money from the person who worked very hard for it, are the ones getting the blessing... Thanks for your comment. Tess Harris aka bisayanqueen http://bisayanqueen.wordpress.com/ .-= bisayanqueen´s last blog ..<a href="http://bisayanqueen.wordpress.com/2010/06/05/the-road-to-healing-is-uncovering-the-scars-from-years-past-2/" rel="nofollow">The Road to Healing is Uncovering the Scars from Years Past…</a> =-. Albert…

No. No one is bound to do anything.

It’s just that Filipinos who came from destitute background, and that’s including me, have been heavily brainwashed about taking care of parents and siblings who are still struggling.
And, they certainly expect it.

Of course the decision is always up to me whether I am going to act on it or not. Ever since this post, I have reorganized my priorities… :-)

You quoted:

“I must give because the money I’ve earned is a blessing” rule?… why is it called a blessing when in fact you have to work to earn every penny? I would say the people who receive the money from the hard working person, are the one’s getting the “blessings”…

I’m thinking this is your interpretation of this blog.

You are right…

the people who receive money from the person who worked very hard for it, are the ones getting the blessing…

Thanks for your comment.

Tess Harris
aka bisayanqueen
http://bisayanqueen.wordpress.com/
bisayanqueen´s last blog ..The Road to Healing is Uncovering the Scars from Years Past… My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: Albert http://filipinaimages.com/the-guilt-ridden-filipina-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-3232 Albert Wed, 21 Apr 2010 00:30:47 +0000 http://filipinaimages.com/the-guilt-ridden-filipina-woman/#comment-3232 Are all Filipina woman bound by the "I must give because the money I've earned is a blessing" rule?... why is it called a blessing when in fact you have to work to earn every penny? I would say the people who receive the money from the hard working person, are the one's getting the "blessings"... Are all Filipina woman bound by the “I must give because the money I’ve earned is a blessing” rule?… why is it called a blessing when in fact you have to work to earn every penny? I would say the people who receive the money from the hard working person, are the one’s getting the “blessings”…

]]> By: G Real Moon http://filipinaimages.com/the-guilt-ridden-filipina-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-817 G Real Moon Mon, 31 Mar 2008 22:49:17 +0000 http://filipinaimages.com/the-guilt-ridden-filipina-woman/#comment-817 I am a male. Your sentiments are not isolated to women only. But your post is true and real. Totoong-totoo sa totoong buhay. You and your husband's idea of helping your Bro go to school is a good sharing of blessings. Afterall, Jesus said, "Do not give them fish, rather teach them how to fish." Luckily for me, i am the youngest among 9 siblings of a Carpenter-Widower. My Nanay died when i was 4 years. Luckily again, i matured so early that i left home at 13 and look for emloyers who could send me to high school. Short cut. I graduated college. Worked in the government for several years. Tried corporate life for another several years and left. Now i am a biznizman. A happy biznizman. I am a male. Your sentiments are not isolated to women only. But your post is true and real. Totoong-totoo sa totoong buhay. You and your husband’s idea of helping your Bro go to school is a good sharing of blessings. Afterall, Jesus said, “Do not give them fish, rather teach them how to fish.” Luckily for me, i am the youngest among 9 siblings of a Carpenter-Widower. My Nanay died when i was 4 years. Luckily again, i matured so early that i left home at 13 and look for emloyers who could send me to high school. Short cut. I graduated college. Worked in the government for several years. Tried corporate life for another several years and left. Now i am a biznizman. A happy biznizman.

]]> By: brainteaser http://filipinaimages.com/the-guilt-ridden-filipina-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-705 brainteaser Wed, 12 Mar 2008 06:26:26 +0000 http://filipinaimages.com/the-guilt-ridden-filipina-woman/#comment-705 Very honest post! I think I know how you feel. :-) Arghhh! :-) Very honest post!

I think I know how you feel. :-) Arghhh! :-)

]]> By: noemi http://filipinaimages.com/the-guilt-ridden-filipina-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-625 noemi Wed, 27 Feb 2008 16:01:30 +0000 http://filipinaimages.com/the-guilt-ridden-filipina-woman/#comment-625 Your husband is right actually. I think bringing your brother to college is a good move. At least you know your "investment" will pay off. Your husband is right actually. I think bringing your brother to college is a good move. At least you know your “investment” will pay off.

]]> By: p http://filipinaimages.com/the-guilt-ridden-filipina-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-622 p Tue, 26 Feb 2008 15:24:58 +0000 http://filipinaimages.com/the-guilt-ridden-filipina-woman/#comment-622 Hindi ko malaman kung matatawa o maiiyak pero napangiti ako sa "Use a condom or something!!!". Sabi nila guilt is hereditary-- you inherit it from your mother. but thanks for such an honest post. A lot of us OFWs feel the same way... (found this post on the women section of http://whatsikat.com) Hindi ko malaman kung matatawa o maiiyak pero napangiti ako sa “Use a condom or something!!!”.

Sabi nila guilt is hereditary– you inherit it from your mother. but thanks for such an honest post. A lot of us OFWs feel the same way…

(found this post on the women section of http://whatsikat.com)

]]> By: Alice http://filipinaimages.com/the-guilt-ridden-filipina-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-621 Alice Tue, 26 Feb 2008 11:45:31 +0000 http://filipinaimages.com/the-guilt-ridden-filipina-woman/#comment-621 your husband is right and you did a good thing by pulling away for a bit. they need to learn to rely on themselves and to stop using you as a crutch. i understand hard times. my family is the same way and often "borrows" money. it has been years and none of my relatives have seen any effort of payback at all. the money isn't the important part. it's the principle of the thing. you did your best but it's not your burden to carry all alone. it isn't fair. your husband is right and you did a good thing by pulling away for a bit. they need to learn to rely on themselves and to stop using you as a crutch. i understand hard times. my family is the same way and often “borrows” money. it has been years and none of my relatives have seen any effort of payback at all. the money isn’t the important part. it’s the principle of the thing. you did your best but it’s not your burden to carry all alone. it isn’t fair.

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