Restoring the Image of the Filipina at our Fingertips
The problem is worse, and we need our voices, as well as our dignities, lift to be heard.
If part of your daily routine is to navigate through search engines for your school work or just your way of spending leisure time; then Filipina dating sites is not new to you.
Try typing the word ‘Filipina’ and you’ll get millions of dating sites, which primarily distorts the image of the true Filipina.
Since the birth of the blogosphere, I have been so hooked into the phenomenon. Not only because of my passion in writing, but also due to the satisfaction it gives me every time I am overwhelmed with stress and pressures at school, family, friends and the like. It is the sanctuary of my emotions. Throughout the years, my blog had been my shock absorber, an avid listener of my rants and raves in life.
Maybe the reason why it had been a very powerful tool for Filipinas like me is because we are naturally born to communicate with our feelings through words. Scientifically, women have amygdalas connected to their left-brains, which are primarily responsible for letting our emotions expressed through words; reason why mothers are usually known naggers.
More than just an online diary, it is also used for resourceful means. There are many existing blogs that have been very useful as research materials. These are literary blogs, entertainment blogs, and photoblogs, to name a few.
However, due to the popularity of this new form of communication, and how it has been irresponsibly utilized by some, the image of the Filipina have been blackened and its distorted impression splattered all over the World Wide Web. Blogs, more often than not, have become the showroom of Filipina “wares” for the whole world’s consumption. Some have used the blog as vehicle towards the fulfillment of a dream for a better life by way of marriage or relationship with a foreigner presumed to be economically well off. It has become her ad space, thus making her vulnerable to all sorts of personalities. Thanks God to those who are lucky to have a good catch through the blog; but woe to those who become prey to homicidal maniacs who only used his fair skin to lure the unsuspecting Filipina. Not all Caucasians can promise her of an economically good life ahead. Unwittingly, the Filipina herself have helped soil her image around the world.
“Why is this so?”
I ask myself. What could be the main reason why we have been brought up to this kind of demeaning image? Is it only because of their inferior perception of us? Is it because we let this happen? Or could it be because we lack respect for ourselves? Or could the reason be political?
If Rizal were to catch a glimpse of the present situation of our country, can you imagine what could his initial reaction be to us, his descendants?
Just like the evolution of communication through blogs, the nation had witnessed Filipina evolved through ages. Tracing down the roots of our history, we have produced a number of Filipinas who have given pride to our nation. And with this, I am proud to say that I am a product of Melchora Aquino, who have been a refuge for the sick and wounded revolutionaries; of Teodora Alonzo, who have molded our national hero who served as the voice of our nation; of Corazon Aquino, who have stood as the mother of the multitude of crowds towards restoring our nation; of Miriam Quiambao, who bravely stood up despite her fall. These Filipina women, is indeed a representation of a real Filipina: Brave. Strong. And speaks up for her dignity.
The misleading image of a Filipina all over the Internet is slowly tearing down our state. Thus, we need to make our move to bring back the real picture of a Filipina. In this fast paced era, the reform is right at our fingertips. Speak up. All you need is just a blog. If you do so, I’m certain that Rizal would be more than happy because you not just made a reform amidst the wrong impression of a Filipina; but also, you made yourself a hero through easy and peaceful means.